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Helping Others

Help others and give something back. I guarantee you will discover that while public service improves the lives and the world around you, its greatest reward is the enrichment and new meaning it will bring your own life.

Arnold Schwarzenegger

The dynamics of helping people, and in turn allowing ourselves to be helped are intricate and complex. It is not just about giving someone money so they go away.

To truly help someone, one needs to have some kind of understanding of who the other person is, what their needs are, and to also understand their world view.

Helping others involves a considerable amount of courage confidence and compassion. We need to be willing to look outside ourselves, to observe others, to see where we can help, then decide to step up and do that we think needs to be done in a way that empowers those who we are helping. A basic understanding of these deeper aspects of another person are the things that allow us to compare ourselves to others and make critical decisions or observations about ourselves!
By helping others we automatically presume that we are able to help, that we have the necessary skills and expertise to enable us to do what ever it is that we have decided to do to help that person.

In essence, helping others is not just about giving to some one in need. Helping others is a wonderful social way of assessing our selves, our skills, our confidence and self worth. That good feeling that you have as a result of helping others is not necessarily some mysterious spiritual epiphany, but rather a realization of how good we really are.

In helping others you are helping yourself!


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When do I need help?

Why do we feel that if we ask for help, we are a failure?

Why do we expect ourselves to know everything?

An airline pilot undergoes years of intensive training and apprenticeship understudy systems before he / she is able to successfully fly you to your exotic holiday destination. No one expects an aspiring pilot to step out of his / her car and straight into the cockpit of a multi-million dollar air-plane.

Why then do we expect ourselves to be able to cope immediately and effectively with any and every diverse and complicated situation presented to us in life?

the first thing we need to accept is that there is no shame in asking for help or advice. We are all unique human beings living, for now on this proverbial spaceship called Earth. Each one of us has a wealth of knowledge and experience and our survival method is unique to us. Logic therefore dictates that if we are encountering a problem, then most likely someone in our immediate circle of friends and acquaintances is either going through a similar challenge, or has already successfully overcome a similar challenge.

Observe your actions and your outcomes and answer two very simple questions;

Is what I am doing working out for me in the way that I want it to?

Am I happy?

If your answer is YES, keep on doing what you are doing!

If your answer is NO, then look around you for someone who has achieved what you want to achieve. Approach that person and ask them how they did it!

If you are having problems with emotion, self worth depression, anger, or similar, first write down exactly what you are feeling and when you are feeling it, then approach a qualified professional.

There is no shame in asking for help, and the sooner you get the information you need to achieve what you want, the easier and more fun life becomes!

You can do it!





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