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Freedom to be Yourself

Have you ever noticed that everyone but you seems to have their “act together”- that you look into others perfection and see your own miserable self reflected right back at you, then in a cacophony of safe insecurity you hit your bottom, bounce, and present that brave face, that arrogant smirk, that clubs that self righteous junk right back at those looking into your own miserable yet “I got my act together” veneer of perfection?

Have you ever sat at the feet of yet another self absorbed guru (like there is any other kind) and secretly wondered, while gaga grinning in inner peace, what it would be like if gaga grinning guru here were to self immolate, spontaneously, now, so that while he sizzled and greased up the floor with his holy oil, you could ease the cramp in your back, legs, bum and toes, that was gifted to you by the personal enlightenment pose of the now fast reducing master?

Have you ever instinctively felt that there was something out there, something greater than you, but have been unable to extract yourself form the whirlwind drama of life to look around to see what exactly it is that is disturbing your everyday mundane perfection?

Have you ever considered that you are prefect as you are?

Remember that what we do for a living is not who we are – it is an important and complex interpersonal and social means to a financial end. It is important to understand and work in harmony with those around us, but that title and position, no matter how lofty or lowly, is not you. It is just a transitory position in your journey through life.

While you are facing the responsibilities of life, don’t forget to take some time to be yourself – even if it means putting a picture of a dragon or a fairy on your desktop!

Always remember that you are unique, perfect whole and complete as you are – you are free to be you whenever you choose.

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“Have you ever considered that any real freedom (is the)

freedom from the opinions of others, freedom from the opinions of yourself?”

                                                           Colonel Kurtz (Apocalypse Now)


Who is your jailer, if not yourself?

Who limits you, if not yourself?

Who dreams for you, if not yourself?

Who implements for you, if not yourself?

Who is responsible for your freedom, if not yourself?

Freedom is a concept of limitless expansion. The opposite of freedom would be restraint, which implies limit, structure, order and the definition of parameters. Freedom represents a unique paradox, as one needs to know one’s limits or restrictions to be able to free one’s self from them. The very existence of the concept of freedom seems to constantly negate its self!

To truly understand the concept of freedom, in every single sphere of our existence, is to consider that freedom is nothing without an accompanying personal responsibility. Freedom without responsibility is nothing more that another limitation and possibly even an excuse for idleness!

To be truly free from something, one has to be able to implement a change to the restrictive aspect of that freedom, and to do that one needs to be able to effectively respond to the consequences of the actions of the change. Great freedom fighters and strategists of the last few hundred years understood this (Washington, Tutu, Mandela, Sharon, Guevara, Bismark, Cromwell, Robespierre, to name a few).

Now lets apply this concept of freedom to our wellness goals – spiritual, physical and mental!

Where would you like to be on your path to obtaining those goals in three months, one year and three years?

What limitations do you need to change to allow yourself to be free?

What part of that change do you fear and why?

Are you willing to take personal responsibility for that freedom?



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