Monthly Archives: November 2014

Thoughts Are Things!

Have you ever explored your internal world?

We all understand and know what it is like to experience things outside of us, or things that are happening to us like relaxing on the beach or going somewhere exciting for dinner. We respond to stimulus and decide if we like the situation or not. This is normal, but it is also a state of being that is reactive.

We respond to things that have already happened and hopefully we learn and grow through that reactive process, but what, where how and why do we get to the point of experience and reaction?

A brief observation of out internal world, our thought process, should show that in most cases, matter or experience follows our thoughts. We are not going to explore in detail the “Mind Power” or “Think and Grow Rich” or “Power of Positive Thinking” concepts. That debate is for the die-hard skeptics and “guru’s” to engage in at their leisure.

Those of you who are master sales agents, fire walkers, professional over achievers and or sports people know that the more that you focus on the goal and eliminate the possibility of failure, the more likely it is that you will succeed. That is why professions consult with life coaches, business coaches and or mentors – they assist us to eliminate the peripheral negative thoughts and replace these with our success thoughts. Once these successful thoughts predominate our thinking we naturally and automatically start to experience the positive results of the process.

What I suggest you try this week is to take a moment every day and follow your thought process, make a note if you can of what you are thinking and observe the outcomes of those thoughts. Then change those thoughts to ones that are more suitable to you and your expected outcomes.

In today’s competitive world, we can not afford the luxury of a negative thought. We plan our business pathway, now lets plan our thought process to achieve what ever it is that we aspire to!

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Maintaining Happiness

Happiness is a feeling that we have about ourselves in response to a specific and unique set of external circumstances. Our personal expectations are met and normally a positive judgment of ourselves (not ourselves in relation to others) can enhance this feeling.

Take a moment to think back to a time when you were happy. Observe the situation and or people in that scene and re-live that happiness. What is it about that scene or situation that has created that feeling of happiness, and how have all your expectations of yourself and others been met in that moment?

This observation of your happy set of circumstances will give you an insight into some of your subconscious aspects of your self and your motivations in life that you may not have been aware of. These aspects are not to be judged, but acknowledged and where appropriate re-created in your life today.

To calibrate this happiness, to give it importance, we need to compare it to something, normally negative emotions and feelings. Repeat the exercise above, but this time remember a time when you are sad or depressed. Again observe the scene without judgment and allow yourself to observe your expectations that have not been met to your satisfaction. What have you discovered about yourself through this observation process, and how can you integrate or change where appropriate?

It is naive to think that we can be happy all the time. What we can do is observe our times of unhappiness, understand them for what they are and then allow our happy formula to engage to move us once again towards a more harmonious and graceful state of being.

Every person on Earth deserves to be happy, and the state of mind that we experience as “being happy” is easy to create and maintain.

It’s your choice – choose happiness!

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Sum of our Parts

Have you ever considered that you, right now in this moment in time is a conglomerate of many parts?

All of us play different roles at different moments in our lives – the worker, the teacher, the care giver, the driver, the cook, the parent, the child, and many many more.

In an ideal world, each part will be working in perfect harmony with all the other parts to help you create and enjoy a fruitful, happy and harmonious life.

Some schools of psychology and hypnotherapy postulate that when we are experiencing disharmony, these parts are out of synchronization and one part is presiding over the other parts in either a positive or a negative way.

Looking at and understanding our parts is a wonderfully easy way to access our own subconscious mind and in so doing we can become our own therapist!

The secret to understanding the different parts is to find out what they are trying to do to protect or motivate the collective whole of the self.

Simplistically illustrated, If we can understand the motivation of the “addictive part” for example, we automatically see where in our lives or psyche there is a challenge for us to resolve. Once we have found the challenge, we can select another part to help us solve the problem to once again bring about harmony.

Which part of you is prominent in your life?

Is it appropriate and what does it do for me?

How does this action fit in with my goals?

What part do I need to engage to enhance my position and bring about harmony?

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3 Things you can do to have a better day!

3 Things you can do to have a better day!

How is your day today?




What ever option you selected is your own personal experience of what is going on around you. To be brutally honest, no one can understand exactly how you feel right now, and in most instances, most other people are so busy doing the best that they know how to do to survive in their own lives that they don’t have time for more than a polite “hello”.

You are directly responsible for what you are experiencing and feeling in your life, and we only feel a negative emotion to our circumstances when either we are not getting what we want, or not getting the responses form others that we expect.

The easiest way to have a good day, every day, is to manage our expectation – not to dumb our selves down and lose ambition, but to keep things in perspective for ourselves and to focus on our personal journey through life.

Three key factors to consider are;

Permission, Awareness, and Decisive Action.

Set an alarm on your phone to buzz you every 30 minutes. When your alarm goes off, ask yourself if you really want to be doing what ever it is that you are doing in the moment.

Do you give yourself permission to do this?

Once you have a yes or a no answer, you can assess why you are doing X and what your expected outcome of the action is.

This action of giving yourself permission forces your awareness back on to yourself. For that moment you have to know who you are in the moment so that you can find your yes or no answer. Awareness of your self in the moment is a very powerful thing, and every teacher through out the ages, from the figures of Buddha and Jesus to Eckhart Tholle have promoted this simple concept of self awareness in the moment.

Once we are aware of ourselves in our space, we can then decide what we need to do to get us to where we want to be. Most of us have to get up and go to work, and that is perfectly fine – working gives us worth, identity and cash to assist us through our life more gracefully, but even a job that you hate does not have to end up as a self perpetuating cycle of misery – YOU can break that cycle!

Simplistically, you have given yourself permission to get up and go to work. You are aware of why you are doing what you are doing, and you can now decide what action is required to take you to the next level of goal achievement in your life.

Go out and have a great day – because you can!

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