Have you noticed that all people around the world, irrespective of race, religion, culture or gender, struggle at times to understand and cope with that interesting response we call STRESS!
Stress is the modern term for the basic instinct all forms of life have – the will to survive. Stress is a chemical, hormonal response in the body and its only function is to keep you alive under extreme circumstances and points to a specific moment in time when an organisms perceived demands threatened to outweigh its perceived survival resources.
There are four simple concepts that help us understand stress.
Stress is a unique, personal experience.
Your stress is directly related to your perceived ability to cope in the moment.
The stress response is triggered by your brain speed.
Both real and imaginary events are presumed to be real by our subconscious mind.
The two main misconceptions of stress management are the belief that a therapist can some how erase a past stressful experience and by doing so bring the person back to their chosen equilibrium, and that there is a single simple solution to our stress response. This is completely wrong!
Once you have had an experience you cannot erase it as it becomes part of your memory. Memory is what you use to reference yourself in the future and helps you make decisions.
To manage your stress, you need to learn how to consciously and selectively isolate your awareness and in so doing regulate your past, current and future emotional response to the event. As you change how you see the stressful event, you are able to chose your responses to derive maximum benefit from the experience.
Fortunately, we as human beings can access, observe and direct our awareness easily and quickly.
The most important and effective way to observe your self and there by analyze and re frame your stress, is to suspend all judgment of yourself. Be firm but gentle with yourself and you will automatically start to make positive changes in your life.