Monthly Archives: July 2014

Time Managemen

“Tiiiiiiiiime is on my side, yes it is!” The Rolling Stones

How often had you thought just that and in the next moment you are struggling to cope?

Have you noticed that some days time is like wild fire, you blink and it has gone totally out of control!

Have you ever said to someone, in the middle of a busy day “time is running away with me!”?

The good part is that you are not alone!

I am sure that every single one of us reading this has at some point in our lives experienced the ever increasing pressure of “running out of time.”

If we analyze this phenomenon more closely, we will see that time is not real at all. Time, as Einstein proved, is relative to the person experiencing it and the person observing it from a separate place from the person experiencing it. Our interaction with time therefor is dependent on how we see ourselves able to cope with what is going on around us in that moment. Those of you who have attended one of my stress management seminars will remember that stress is your ability to cope with that ever is going on around you using the resources that you have in that moment. Time therefor adds another dimension, either positive or negative to our stress response.

Managing time is very easy to do;

In the moment, it is as simple as being aware of yourself in any given moment. This self awareness will allow you to assess your available resources and compare them to the circumstance that you are experiencing and then prompt an appropriate response.

Observe – decide – act

To be even more effective in your time management, you should be able at some level to plan ahead. By planning ahead we solve some problems before they arise, and we allow contingencies in strategic places. This makes us more time!

Observe – plan – decide – act

If you get to that point of feeling out of control, take a few seconds to take a deep breath or two and just for those moments, observe the situation. Suspend your pre-conceived ideas of what you need to do and why, just observe for a moment and you will have far greater clarity about the situation. Then you can make better decisions and move forward.

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Self Worth

Your self-worth has nothing to do with your craft or calling, and everything to do with how you treat yourself. Kris Carr

What is your worth?

How many of YOU are there in the world?

How good were your grades in school?

What do you do for work?

How much money do you earn?

Is this really a definition of who you are?

There are so many things in your life that make you who you are. The way you answer the phone when your friend calls you, the way you make a sandwich for your child, the way you fill the kettle after making tea or coffee at work so others can have some too.

All these little things that you do for yourself and for other people are the important things! Society has got things the wrong way round – any one can study hard and get good grades, bun not every one is inventing space ships or worrying about their sick pet while in class. Simple examples yes, but without those unique, nu-noticed things that we do, we would not have a society at all!

We are a collection of very unique individuals working together to move our selves, our family, our work, our culture, our country and our planet forward. Everything is based on you, your world view, your response, your decisions and your inputs. Your education and conditioned interactions with others is designed specifically to make you useful to the collective, but with out your individual interpretation, understanding and application of that education or enculturation, there would not be a collective at all, there would be boring monotony going no where and achieving nothing.

You the individual are valueless and priceless. Your ideas and inputs to your world are totally unique in that moment and can not be copied or replicated efficiently.

Next time you feel small and inadequate because you feel as if you don’t know enough, or earn enough or what ever it is, take a deep breath and remember that you are YOU, perfect, whole and complete as you are, and no one can ever judge you for that or take that away from you.

Go out this week and be who you need to be for you!

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What is Stress?


Have you noticed that all people around the world, irrespective of race, religion, culture or gender, struggle at times to understand and cope with that interesting response we call STRESS!

Stress is the modern term for the basic instinct all forms of life have – the will to survive. Stress is a chemical, hormonal response in the body and its only function is to keep you alive under extreme circumstances and points to a specific moment in time when an organisms perceived demands threatened to outweigh its perceived survival resources.

There are four simple concepts that help us understand stress.

  1. Stress is a unique, personal experience.

  2. Your stress is directly related to your perceived ability to cope in the moment.

  3. The stress response is triggered by your brain speed.

  4. Both real and imaginary events are presumed to be real by our subconscious mind.

The two main misconceptions of stress management are the belief that a therapist can some how erase a past stressful experience and by doing so bring the person back to their chosen equilibrium, and that there is a single simple solution to our stress response. This is completely wrong!

Once you have had an experience you cannot erase it as it becomes part of your memory. Memory is what you use to reference yourself in the future and helps you make decisions.

To manage your stress, you need to learn how to consciously and selectively isolate your awareness and in so doing regulate your past, current and future emotional response to the event. As you change how you see the stressful event, you are able to chose your responses to derive maximum benefit from the experience.

Fortunately, we as human beings can access, observe and direct our awareness easily and quickly.

The most important and effective way to observe your self and there by analyze and re frame your stress, is to suspend all judgment of yourself. Be firm but gentle with yourself and you will automatically start to make positive changes in your life.



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Self-awareness is not just relaxation and not just meditation. It must combine relaxation with activity and dynamism. Technology can aid that. Deepak Chopra

How is your hectic life going?

Are you achieving what you want to achieve?

Are you working harder?

When last did you kick back, have a laugh and relax?

We all know why we work so hard, why we are hamsters on the wheel of life – actually why do we all work so hard?

What is it that motivates you to get up and going every day?

Do you ever enjoy that goal achieved?

Have you ever thought that perhaps your goal of success, freedom, house, car or what ever it is can be experienced sooner than you may have anticipate

Try linking your relaxation activities to your goal and see how much more motivated you are, how much more refreshed you are or possibly even how you update and edit your goal to something more appropriate to who you are now.

If you are working towards a new car, book a test drive at your local dealership, or go in and chat to the sales people about the car, enjoy it for that moment. If you are striving for a new house or apartment, go and look at suitable houses on a show day, call an agent and talk about your dream home, enjoy it for a moment. If you are working towards an overseas holiday, do research on the place you would like to visit, add value to you future experience right now!

Never forget that what you do for work is not necessarily who you are. We work for money to allow us to function in society. We are unique individuals journeying though life as best we can!

Make a point this week to take yourself off to a movie, or go for coffee and a laugh with friends. Take care to switch you phone off for at least two hours once a week, or at the very least only answer important life and death calls.

We are here to experience and enjoy life, the good and the bad. Cherish that time you spend with yourself, allow yourself to relax and recharge – you are worth it!

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