Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement. Golder Meir

How would you define trust?

Is trust about vulnerability, surrender, loss?

Is trust about presuming that someone is better than you, or are you better than them?

Does trust invoke a sense of loss or anxiety,or a sense of peace and contentment?

Have you ever wondered why all these other emotions are mixed up with trust?

If you have a growing child, their whole learning experience could be defined as a transfer of trust. We trust them not to drop the glass of water, to not play with dangerous appliances or tools. Then later, we trust them with education, give them knowledge trusting that they will use it wisely, and if they don’t, we trust that they know not to cause too much damage in their experimental application of knowledge. Eventually we trust them to perpetuate our civilization, world view and culture.

That’s a lot of trust!

If we can trust our children, and those of others, why do we struggle to trust in interpersonal adult relation ships?

We seem to focus on the expected outcome, or feared outcome and then presume that some how our trust will fulfill that outcome. This is outcome based expectation,not trust at all.

Take a moment to re visit your emotional associations with trust. Re calibrate your trust. Find out what pay-back, good or bad, has been associated with your trust.

The secret is to trust ones self first!

Trust yourself to be exactly who you need to be all the time. Trust yourself to be the hero in your own life rather than setting yourself up for failure by using trust to try to dictate others presumed or expected behaviour.

The fact that you are alive and reading this blog shows the incredible amount of trust you already have in yourself. Use that trust as your starting point to drive yourself into your success. In essence, your existence shows you that you are already there. Why complicate it?


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