In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, ‘Listen, I have to be responsible for myself.’ Howard Schultz

How many of us have tripped up a step and blamed the step, or fallen off a bicycle and blamed the bike?

It is the easiest thing in the world to assign blame, but what is it and what does it do to our psyche?

To assign blame, one first has to make a simple judgment. A judgment of our selves in comparison to everyone else, a judgment of our performance in relation to other peoples performance. In essence, we have to separate ourselves from expected outcomes in a way that ensures that the outcome has nothing to do with us. If we do this however, the first question to arise will be; why is the thing that we are trying to disassociate ourselves from is so important to us?

If that particular thing is of such little consequence, why create the disassociation at all?

By association therefor, we are always fully or at least partly responsible for that very thing from which we are trying to disassociate.

Once we realise this, we are automatically half way to resolving the issue at hand. The next step to positive resolution is to decide how you can efficiently respond to the situation that you are trying to assign blame to. You may notice that the result of these two steps is a simple shift in consciousness. You have moved from a state of dis-empowerment and defense to a state of empowerment and resolution!

How simple was that?

This week be aware of where you assign blame.

Then decide how you could respond differently to achieve your desired outcome. By doing this, you automatically start to take your power back and gain more and more emotional freedom.



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