Why do we feel that if we ask for help, we are a failure?
Why do we expect ourselves to know everything?
An airline pilot undergoes years of intensive training and apprenticeship understudy systems before he / she is able to successfully fly you to your exotic holiday destination. No one expects an aspiring pilot to step out of his / her car and straight into the cockpit of a multi-million dollar air-plane.
Why then do we expect ourselves to be able to cope immediately and effectively with any and every diverse and complicated situation presented to us in life?
the first thing we need to accept is that there is no shame in asking for help or advice. We are all unique human beings living, for now on this proverbial spaceship called Earth. Each one of us has a wealth of knowledge and experience and our survival method is unique to us. Logic therefore dictates that if we are encountering a problem, then most likely someone in our immediate circle of friends and acquaintances is either going through a similar challenge, or has already successfully overcome a similar challenge.
Observe your actions and your outcomes and answer two very simple questions;
Is what I am doing working out for me in the way that I want it to?
Am I happy?
If your answer is YES, keep on doing what you are doing!
If your answer is NO, then look around you for someone who has achieved what you want to achieve. Approach that person and ask them how they did it!
If you are having problems with emotion, self worth depression, anger, or similar, first write down exactly what you are feeling and when you are feeling it, then approach a qualified professional.
There is no shame in asking for help, and the sooner you get the information you need to achieve what you want, the easier and more fun life becomes!
You can do it!