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Passion Spice

Passion Spice!

“PASSION – A strong enthusiasm for something, any strongly felt emotion, an intense desire or enthusiasm”

The Collins English Dictionary

When we mention passion, most of us will have visions of sultry sex and sensuality, and we would not be wrong, but there is so much more to the experience of passion as felt by us human beings!

Without passion, life is dull, uneventful, boring and mundane, yet add that human spice called passion and suddenly things are alive, fun worthwhile and challenging.

Passion, for humans is a catalyst. Without passion, there would be very little progress, few inventions and we would tend to stagnate. We are not judging the right or wrong, good or bad of passion, just observing how a single emotive phenomenon changes, motivates and drives us forward to greater heights or success and achievement.

What are your personal passions in life?

What drives you forward to achieve?

If you feel as if you are stuck, going no where fast, like a pet hamster running on its treadmill, what would you like to be doing?

What would you like to change?

If you are stuck, and have no idea what your passions are, take half an hour to browse through a book store. Take note of what sections hold your attention. Why do you gravitate to these sections?

In most cases where you stop in a book store will show you where your hidden passions lie!

Do something small each day in that field and see how your world view starts to change in a very short space of time. See how much more satisfied you are with yourself, and how motivated you are to change your life towards your passion in a responsible way.

I dare you to add a pinch of “passion spice” to your life and see how your flavours start to emerge!

This weeks challenge.

What is my rout though a book store?

How can I add a taste of those genres to my life?

How much better are my stress levels now that “passion spice” is working in my life?

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Reading Between YOUR lines

Reading between your lines

“Two men look out through the same bars

One see mud, the other sees stars”

Ogden Nas

Have you ever thought that we confuse ourselves with our many roles in life?

Soul versus Personality?

Banker, plumber, mother, tinker, tailor, IT expert, politician, thief verses the whole person that we, in essence, really are. All day long we bounce from role to role, exchanging masks and fulfilling tasks as we go, but at the end of the day, who are you?

We spend so much time pretending to be someone else that we eventually forget who we really are. If you were to study your performance expectation – perceived or real within each role, you will soon find that the majority of your stress comes from performance issues relating you your mask, and not you!

Great spiritual teachings infer that we should become like children, no mask, just us!

From early childhood we begin to define ourselves in relation to the world around us, the people around us and more importantly how they interact with us. The opinions and behaviour patterns transferred by our principle conditioners – our role models, parents, teachers, religious elders, TV and movie ‘hero’s, become our opinions and behaviour patterns, about the world and more importantly about ourselves.

This is a natural enculturation process, one effectively employed by nature all around us, but unlike nature, if we are confused to start with, what are we transferring?

Left unobserved, it very easily leads to isolation, confusion, internal judgements and depression later in life.

There is a direct correlation between the mask you wear, how seriously you believe in your role in the mask and your experience of life!

As Neale Donald Walsch says in his Conversations with God trilogy – “There is no expectation, God has no expectation of you. All you get to do is decide who you want to be and create your life to support that experience.

So who are you really?

Who would you like to be?

Can you read between your lines?

Can you enjoy your masks for what they are?

Can you be yourself for a moment?

 

Go head, try!

 

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You Are what you THINK!

You Are what you THINK!

“You are what you think about all day”

Tony Robbins

Scary thought?

How much data do you process every minute of every day?

How much of that data is relevant to your survival?

How much of that data has been chosen by you?

Technology allows you to be connected 24/7 to our friends, family and all the good things in our lives, BUT the same technology connects you, with the same insistent intensity to the pressures of work, politics and sneaky marketing trends!

When you have your “alone time”, or “home time” how many times per hour do you indulge in a non “you” activity – make or take a non personal call, check an email, receive a world “disaster” news update, or a sneaky Facebook or Twitter update?

Why do these people and things have instant and direct access to you any time that they choose?

This is the way of the world in which we live, but is it really necessary to answer an email while waiting for the movie to start, or during the intermission of our child’s school play?

Will the world really end if you attend to things at a more appropriate time?

Most of us have attended a “Mind Power” seminar, or have understood the concept of focusing your thoughts, positive thinking or another similar thought – material world connection system. These types of mental focus systems are very real and very important, and are mentioned and even institutionalised most of the worlds major religions. Meditation and prayer focus the intention, forgiveness releases negative thoughts and emotions there by encouraging equilibrium.

These systems were introduced and explained by the wise masters and mistresses of old to help us de-clutter, de-stress and focus.

 

That’s great, BUT how can we do this if we are on call 24/7, constantly under pressure from other people who themselves are under pressure from other people or perceived circumstance?

On a sub conscious level, the perpetual troubleshooting clutter naturally focuses us on the external chaos in the world which in turn manifests its self in some way in our lives.

So what can we do about it?

to live IN the world, try not to be OF the world. Focus on being proactive instead of reactive, and try to switch the constant stream of clutter off for a time at least once a day.

The lesson is to bring your attention to yourself and to start to live in the world but not be products of it. To fix our minds, hearts and actions on the principle around which our

lives are based. To focus on our own purpose and to draw ourselves

towards our own Higher Quality of Life.

Take some time this week to explore the focus of your life:

~ What do you think about all day long?

~ What are you attracting into your life as a result?

 

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Money!

“Money and Destiny”

 

“If you create an act, you create a habit

If you create a habit, you create a character,

If you create a character, you create a destiny.”

Andre Maurois 1885 – 1967

 

 

One of the great stressors that we have in our lives is money!

It is intricately linked to our survival and the abundance or lack of money in our modern world can physically influence our wellness.

 

What is this thing called MONEY?

The thing we are taught to work and strive for.

 

Money is a man-made concept. Nature has no need for money or the idea of money. Nature gives and takes with a free abundance, providing all that is necessary for abundant life, or death and re generation. The natural cycle continues without money!

Ironically the very concept of money, the medium to facilitate prosperity has become a destroyer of prosperity.

 

Have you noticed how money, the facilitator of prosperity, has acquired the reputation as “the root of all evil”?

This perception is most often ascribed to by people to whom we look for guidance – healers, alternative practitioners and some belief systems. It is as if struggle and lack is a prerequisite for being good, spiritual and all things holy!

 

All this is exacerbated by our own personal relationship with money, or the idea of money. The wisdom of our parents, good or bad; our first experiences with money; our feelings of self worth and value and response to peer group pressure relating to abundance and money.

 

Money is not about currency it is a mechanism to facilitate the flow of abundance and prosperity from all of us, to all of us, for all of us. Money is a convenient and fair way to exchange energy, labour, knowledge or produce.

 

Now, positive thinking principles assert that matter follows thought, so if most of us are consciously or subconsciously reluctant to ‘have’, we actively choose not to have. It is your choice, a choice that you can change!

 

Are you willing to reinvent the money concept.

Let us redefine “Money and Destiny” to mean the right of each of us to manifest our own wealth, abundance and destiny as we choose, no limit!

 

Take some time this week to explore your destiny:

What are you striving for?

Is this your choice?

What, where, how would you like to be?

How can you change gracefully and responsibly?

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What are you afraid of?

Fear!

 

The only thing that is preventing you from achieving the goal that you want is FEAR!

 

Fear is an essential survival response, but if miss-applied, it is completely debilitating.

When crossing the road or handling a dangerous substance, the fear of loss, pain or death is what makes us exercise caution and proceed carefully.

The essential elements are “Exercise Caution” and “Proceed Carefully”.

You notice that these two statements involve a progression, not a block!

 

What are we afraid of?

  • Success

  • Failure

  • Pain

  • Embarrassment

  • Loss

  • ()your personal favourite!

 

An easy way around this fear is to set a “double goal”. Set a second goal beyond the one you want to achieve.

When I was studying, I struggled for years to complete a simple Bachelors degree. As soon as I pushed my goal forward – to a Ph.D., the Bachelors degree did not seem so daunting or important. the “What when / if” question that was nagging at me, doing its best to keep me in my comfort zone was no longer relevant, and I achieve the Bachelors degree with ease (all I have to do now is get that Ph.D…).

What are you afraid of in life right now?

Set a goal beyond that fear.

Put a plan in place that will take you carefully forward to that secondary goal. It is important to work within the fear parameter and exercise caution, but do not allow that caution to bring you to a grinding halt – make a point of moving forward consciously every day to wards that secondary goal.

 

Now that you have a secondary goal, ask yourself if that initial fear is still as severe as it once was. Do you still need it?

What purpose does it now serve, or can you pack it away in your box of “experience” for future reference?

How successful do you want to be?

What is holding you back for achieving that success?

 

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Winning

Do you want to be right, or do you want to win?

 

“Don’t say no, go with the flow”

Depak Chopra

 

What are you willing to do to win?

Is it important?

Why?

 

Why do you want to be right?

Is it important?

Why?

 

Chatting to a few friends this week, some rich, some poor, I noticed that they all had a burning desire to win, to achieve to “be successful”. The richer friends had a plan to fulfil their dreams, the less successful friends had dreams!

 

I also noticed that the more successful friends were quite flexible in the way in which they intended to achieve their goals. The end goal its self was also quite flexible – they knew that they were working towards their goals, but they were a lot more willing to compromise, edit and even scrap the goal completely and re define it if things strayed too far from their plan.

My less successful friends tended to try and prove that their decisions were right, that they could force positive change by proving that they were right!

 

A direct quote from a successful friend was;

” Wealth comes from experience, and the experience one wants is to know when to cut your losses and get out. Once out you need to study what went wrong so you don’t make that mistake again”

 

This is a very analytical approach to life , but it is very valid if one wants to initiate and maintain success!

 

Now, remember that success is not just about business and money…

We need to strive for success in the six key areas of our life to attain wellness.

These six areas are;

Family, Friends, Health, Work, Finance, Spirituality.

 

Take a moment to look at these areas of your life.

What do you want to achieve in this area of your life?

What is your plan of action?

Is this plan working for you?

Do you need to change it?

What have you learn’t from this experience?

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Am I HAPPY?

Dare to be HAPPY!

 

The truth you speak has no past and no future. It is, and that’s all it

needs to be.” Richard Bach – Illusions

 

“I my purpose is to live my life in a way that will make me happy!”

 

Go on – say it again!

 

“I my purpose is to live my life in a way that will make me happy!”

 

Does this statement make you feel empowered or insecure?

 

Consider the following questions;

 

  • How many times have we been told to do something because others cant?

  • Will suffering disease yourself alleviate the disease of others?

  • By starving yourself will you fill the bellies of the world’s starving?

  • Will going to war stop all future wars?

  • By experiencing misery, suffering, pain, grief yourself, will you prevent another experiencing these negative emotions?

 

Now consider for a moment that a healthy doctor adds more value to his patient than a sick

doctor, a well nourished farmer can feed more starving people than one

suffering from malnutrition, a wealthy person can give more to charity

than someone battling to survive.

It therefore follows that a happy person is able to spread more joy than a sad person.

 

Remember that you cannot give what you do not have, so by becoming happy, stable, secure, fulfilled, focused and prosperous in your own right you create time and resources which in the future you can share with others. Is this not a wonderful way to create wellness in all aspects of you life and then help others create it too?

 

Take some time this week to be happy, to talk to a stranger, compliment someone, just allow yourself to be you for a moment each day and see how your world will change!

 

Go on try it – I dare you to be happy!

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You ARE good enough

You are already GOOD ENOUGH!

 

Have you ever thought that you are already good enough?

 

When a baby is born, it is perfect, yet its usefulness to our world and society is just about zero!

The baby is vocal, demanding and messy yet it gets 100% support and affection from all those around it!

As we grow older and become more useful, we start to become stuck, unable to move forward, scared of slipping back, caught in the every day survival grind.

Why the nonsensical paradox?

 

Some of the problems that keep us stuck in these spaces of quiet desperation are poor self image, self esteem, and self confidence. These negative traits infuse our society at every level and as such, the societies in which we function perpetuate them!

These feelings of “not being good enough” cause us to under-perform, create a sense of lack, promote underachievement and can even create toxic relationships. These negatives that we experience then serve to prove to ourselves that we are “not good enough”, and further undermine our confidence and self image!

 

this comes from the performance reward system on which our current society is structured – you either win or lose the game, make it or are dropped from the team, reach the target or get fired, pass or fail.

The problem with this system is that it rewards in-animate concept and not individual ability.

 

To break this cycle, you need to start proving to yourself how good you really are.

Start from the premise of “I Am Already Good Enough!”

You are unique, you are you and you are good at what you do. Congratulate yourself first, then find ways to improve.

 

This week repeat to yourself the phrase “I AM ALREADY GOOD ENOUGH”.

Repeat as often as possible through out the day, and at the end of the week see how you feel!

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What are YOUR goals?

Goals – Where are you going?

 

“In my beginning is my end.”
T.S. Elliot 1888 – 1965

 

 

Remember those old pinball machines?

Remember the ball bouncing from pillar to post randomly creating a cacophony of unrealistic points as it bounces around?

How often do you feel like that at the end of a day or week?

But how would it be if you had a goal in mind?

Would the random bouncing not be more bearable and entertaining with a purpose behind it – an expected outcome or destination?

 

How would it be if we had a goal -or several goals in mind for our lives?

Our OWN goals, not those conditioned into us by society!

How would it be if we knew where we were going before we started out so that we had a direction to travel in – even if it meant going the “wrong” way down the road as we purposefully bounce along?

 

Many people feel trapped in meaningless lives because they have no compelling vision of their OWN of how they want their lives to BE or DO or HAVE!

The cause of the feelings of hopelessness, pessimism, depression, and suicide is nothing more that the perceived failure to achieve what we don’t actually want to achieve, then berating ourselves for that failure!

Take a moment to stop your world and find out what you want to BE, DO and HAVE. Write the desires down and make one positive decision on a course of action that will start you on the path to your personal success.

By rising above the fog of our current circumstances we able to forgive – mostly others, but especially ourselves and release ourselves from the chains which have bound us to our previous choices.

We are then free to have fun while moving purposefully towards our chosen compelling vision for our life.

 

What are your current goals?
~ Did you choose them or did someone else?
~ Do you even like them?
~ Where are you going with them? Do you know?
~ What will it be like when you get there?
~ What to you need to change?

 

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Bright and Shiny!

New Bright and Shiny Projects

 

“A=R+P, or Adventure equals risk plus purpose.”
Robert McClure

 

Have you ever watched a child in toy store, and their tired looking harassed parents gagging for five minutes peace and strong cup of coffee?

“I want the Lego blocks, the faerie outfit, the kitten puzzle, the ‘Brat doll’ and the … Wow look at all the Barbies – I want Princess Barbie; Horsey Barbie; Barbie at home, Ken and Barbie, Beach Barbie , oh wow look mom a new…………

 

Mom or Dad stands resigned alongside the enraptured youngster looking overwhelmed. They can only afford one toy – but getting junior megalomaniac to choose is like trying to stop the waves breaking on a shoreline!

The child, in a frenzy of excitement will rush from one toy to the next in a frantic attempt to play with all of them at the same time but not actually play with any.

 

Many people approach their lives this way, trying to Be and Do and Have everything in a panic of instant gratification and sadly achieve very little.

You get an idea and jump right in to reckless action. You get all excited, “This is THE idea that will set me free!” Then comes the inevitable day when the details of the project bog you down . Boredom sets in, and you look for another Bright Shiny Object to chase.

Just like enraptured junior megalomaniac, you are distracted with one bright shiny object after another. Never achieving success at any of them and feeling like an exhausted failure.

Then you say “But I am working so hard.”

When you are exhausted and burnt out, you look around and shout “Enough! There’s got to be an easier way!”

 

The easier way is in fact very simple – focus on only one project at a time – all the way through to completion.

Leverage time, money, energy and skills responsibly.

Recognise that you don’t have to know everything about everything.

Hire experts and LISTEN to them.

 

Ask yourself these simple questions;

~ What’s the Return on Investment I can expect from this goal or project?
~ Will the achievement of this goal give me what I really, really, really want?
~ Do I really even know what I really, really really want?
~ What’s my plan?

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